Comments on: I Had A Miscarriage

By: BARIZA SCIENCE

BARIZA SCIENCE — Sun, 07 Dec 2025 08:41:02 +0000

Thank you for the information in this article. Excellent work!

By: Haniya Aman

Haniya Aman — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 01:04:53 +0000

In reply to Callie. It’s 2024 and I’m reading ur post today because I just had a miscarriage too, besides time what other things help you :(

By: Le leanne

Le leanne — Fri, 16 Apr 2021 04:28:52 +0000

I was nine weeks and found out today I was no longer pregnant and my blood levels dropped and my ultrasound showed an empty gestational sack. I figured Monday my baby was gone but was told officially today… my doctor prescribed me misoprostol, hydrocodone, and haproxen to start my misscarriage since my body hasn’t recognized iv lost my baby ad I have no bleeding or symptoms. I was supposed to start today but I’m not ready. I know the baby is gone I’m just now ready. I’m so sad and hurt. I’m 28 this would be my first baby and my boyfriend was so haply and picked out her name. I try to stay busy but I’m just so sad. I can’t stop crying

By: EMILY M

EMILY M — Mon, 30 Mar 2020 18:55:38 +0000

Andie, it took me quite some time to read your post, though my heart broke for you the first time I saw it. The only advice I would have given you in the moment, and it still applies. Is don’t minimize your pain because others ‘have it worse’. This is something I’ve had to remind myself of over and over. My husband of 24 years left me (we’ve been together since we were 12 years old) and I used to rationalize the pain by saying other women had it so much worse. Their husbands beat them, or cheated on them. Mine ‘just’ fell out of love with me. But after a lot of therapy I was able to see that my pain is just as valid as anyone else’s and that my pain doesn’t minimize anyone else’s suffering. It is just my experience.
Congratulations on your new coming boy. I wish you all the joy he will bring. xo

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 04:41:42 +0000

Hi Andie,
I can definitely understand and empathize with what you went through, even though I am not someone who has lost a child. My best friend actually lost her second baby during delivery. Her first and following pregnancies went okay. She tried for so long to push that second baby out, but the doctors finally told her she couldn’t wait any longer on a c-section. Sometime during the move to the OR, blood stopped getting to the baby’s brain. When they went in to get him out, my best friend’s uterus ruptured and she hemmoraghed. She made it through, but is scarred physically and emotionally for life. She and the dad decided to take the baby off life support after 3 days of zero brain activity. He was without oxygen for ten minutes. I was at the hospital during all this, and I’ll never forget how panicked the dad looked when they shooed him out of the OR. I was terrified I would lose my best friend. Thank you for sharing your story. My best friend has a stuffed bear that she calls Eddie’s bear, after her son who passed, and the two surviving brothers take turns sleeping with the bear. They always have birthdays for Eddie each year as well, just small private family affairs. I hope that you find comfort in the knowledge that you are not alone in your loss and that you also find a serene joy in your new pregnancy. My friend’s last (3rd) baby was her little miracle that helped her heal, even more so than her first born. I hope your new baby does the same for you.

By: Lynn Brown

Lynn Brown — Sun, 19 Jan 2020 20:24:56 +0000

In reply to Laura. I have so much pain inside for different reasons, but your description of the pain you feel is spot on. I wish I could tell those around me that I am not okay and will never be okay again. But instead I smile and mask my pain for the sake of others. Why do we do this? G-d Bless you. Survive and Thrive.

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 19 Jan 2020 19:27:28 +0000

Andie,

I’ve never had a miscarriage, but my first child was born premature. I blamed myself, I sunk into a deep dark depression that ended with me trying to kill myself. Four and a half years later I still wonder what I could have done better, what I should have done instead? What I’ve learned (and try to remind myself of) is that for as much medical science we know, there’s so much more we don’t know. In medicine things don’t necessarily happen, as they say, “for a reason”. So, for as much as you want to, you have to resist the urge to blame yourself. You should mourn, you have to; it’s part of the greiving process. But then, you need accept. That’s the hard part. Even after having two, healthy, on time babies after my first, I still struggle with the acceptance part. I think, though, you and Daniel, can do it: Stare medical science in the face, and if you want a second child, say “f*ck it” (pun intended). You’ll never forget the child you lost or the trauma you experienced. Unfortunately (and maybe fortunately), you’ll probably always carry that with you, but slowly, over time you’ll learn to coexist with it and accept it as part of your story

By: Jann

Jann — Fri, 17 Jan 2020 12:13:47 +0000

I am so sorry for your lose. I hade an 11 week miscarriage as well. It was my first pregnancy and I worried I would never carry a baby to term. My due date was March 6, 1985. My first son was born In August of 1986 and my second in October of 1989. In the many years that have passed I will sometimes write the date March 6 and remember the little baby I lost but say a prayer of gratitude for the 2 sweet boys I have.

Take care of yourself. Hug your husband. Keep in touch. We are all here for you.

By: Ren

Ren — Fri, 17 Jan 2020 02:15:11 +0000

My heart aches for you and with you. My miscarriages devastated me. I felt the future was bleak and joyless. It made me angry when doctors would tell me,”Eighty percent of women (or something like that) who have 2+ miscarriages, go on to have a healthy baby…”
I was so angry with God.
I think you are doing great with talking about it. I don’t know how healing happens…. but love is a major part of it. Talk to a professional if need be. Get placed on medication if that may assist with getting you out of the pit. Name your baby, have a mini-funeral or celebration of life, donate $ to a cause for children in memory of your baby…. those are some ideas. Do what is true to you.
I’m thinking of you and visualizing you held in supportive, soft, loving and protective hands of your guardian angels.

By: Andie

Andie — Fri, 17 Jan 2020 00:26:42 +0000

From one Andie to another Andie, I’m thinking of you. My body is also recovering from a miscarriage last week and it was by chance that I saw your post just now. I’m grateful for you sharing this. There’s definitely a solidarity in knowing we’re feeling this together.
There were a few things I didn’t know about miscarriage before now – one was that there’s no way to stop one once it’s started, and the other that it happens to 1 in 4 women. That’s a staggering statistic and it makes me sad that there’s still such a taboo around it. I’m determined not to hide what’s happened. I’m not exactly broadcasting it to my colleagues but there’s a few close ones that I’ve told. But of course when I tell people I usually cry.

I don’t know what recovery looks like and I’m sure it’s different for everyone. Take care of yourself, Andie.