Comments on: How I felt after having James

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 19:36:40 +0000

Amen to all of this. I have a 6 month old. Multiple times in
the first 8 weeks i thought “what have i done? I cannot do this”. Motherhood is hard and honestly i think we need to stop telling moms who are in the trenches that it gets better. Deep down we know that but in the moment we just want someone to acknowledge its HARD. I shared this with a friend who had a baby 1 yr before me and after the fact she shared how hard it was for her. This shows me society makes us think something is wrong if it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. We need to be more honest, so THANK YOU for doing this post. I cried so much reading it. 6 months later i love my little bug so much but there are still very challenging moments.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Mon, 17 Dec 2018 17:20:39 +0000

We were told today that our three-week-old isn’t gaining enough weight and we need to be on a strict feeding schedule with supplementation. I felt like an absolute failure – how could I not have known? – but later thought to reread this post, and it helped. Thank you.

By: Teresa

Teresa — Tue, 11 Dec 2018 23:48:58 +0000

The early days are no joke, i literally breastfed my daughter 9 hours the first night she was with us. Which in turn caused my milk to come in crazy fast. She’s 2 now and we are weaning hard core and it’s kind of heart breaking but i feel lucky to have been able to go this long. Do not beat yourself up! For some it just doesn’t happen but it doesn’t make you any less of a good mom. Your heart is gonna break a thousand times over the next year when he explodes from a little squish into a full blown creature. Savor it because you blink and they are 2 running and screaming from one end of the house to the other and you think to yourself…i miss those days. Good luck to you xoxo

By: Stephanie Hanson

Stephanie Hanson — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 03:47:09 +0000

You are so brave! Thank you for sharing your struggle – the raw truth is so hard to face, but in doing so you encourage others! I also wasn’t able to nurse my baby and I was devastated. I cried all the time for 2 weeks straight and then finally decided for my mental and emotional health that moving to formula was the best option for both of us. I’ve never looked back! You aren’t strong mama :-)

By: Ruth

Ruth — Thu, 29 Nov 2018 20:37:10 +0000

From a mom who survived PPD & PPA to another who will make it through this journey better than before, YOU are a great mom.

By: Kim C.

Kim C. — Wed, 28 Nov 2018 03:26:24 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing. I have a 10 month old and I relate SO MUCH to your postpartum story. It’s like you put into words what I couldn’t. I had many of the same struggles.

By: Jennifer H.

Jennifer H. — Wed, 28 Nov 2018 02:06:35 +0000

Andie, your son is just beautiful! I look forward to the pictures you post as if I know you personally. I have been a fan of yours for many years. I, also had the struggles of trying to breast feed and not producing enough milk, many years ago. On top of the stress of my daughter not getting enough milk, having very sore nipples and feeling as though I was a failure, I had to have all of this figured out within 6 weeks so that I could pump at work. I was sobbing after spilling what little milk I was able to pump as I was searching through all of the paperwork and suggestions that I had collected to be able to do this nursing thing successfully my husband walked in and gently took the entire file and put it in the trash. He said it will be OK to give her a bottle, we survived on formula and so will she. Our life was much better after that. When we had our son, I didn’t try and nurse. You are an amazing mom and James is lucky to have you!

By: Emily of The Three Bite Rule

Emily of The Three Bite Rule — Tue, 27 Nov 2018 20:37:24 +0000

This is such a beautifully crafted post. I hope you’re really proud of it! Newborn-hood is SO hard. I’m so angered by the expectation and the idea from those who have had breastfeeding success that it is just something hard that if you work hard enough you can do it. I’ve tried, too hard, twice now, and it was miserable for each of my babies and me. I reached out to other moms who seemed like it was no big deal. You’re doing a great job and hope you never feel like you have to love every second. That just isn’t possible but some parts – different ones for everyone- truly are magic. He’s beautiful and your followers are proud and rooting for you all!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 05:34:28 +0000

Same. The details differ here and there but mostly- same! I felt all of those things after I had our first baby boy 11 months ago at age 35. I had wanted to be a mom my whole life! Then he was born and I immediately told my husband that we had ruined our perfect life. Thank you for this. Every month after those first few gets exponentially better and easier and you’ll love him more every day!

By: Daniela

Daniela — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 17:11:44 +0000

Thank you, Thank you , thank you for writing this. I could have written this about my son’s first few days this past June. My eyes welled up with tears as I read this and felt a sense, for the first time since June, that I am not alone. I am still struggling with postpartum depression and I also had the issue of low supply and I felt so ashamed (and was shamed, by family and friends). You have no idea how much this touched me and made me feel that I am not the only mom who has felt the way I do. Thank you, keep doing what you are doing, you are an amazing mom and your baby is absolutely precious.