Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
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What taught me most about decision making was building the house. We worked with an independent architect and contractor and the whole process took probably one and a half years. I won’t go into all the details, but making all those decisions (and there are easily over a thousand), even with guidance, about a place you are sincerely planning to live for the rest of your life, you just have to learn a few things about making those decisions. All of these I’ve found apply very well to weddings as well as building/renovating.

1. You can’t give all of yourself to every decision, you become exhausted and way too stressed. Accept that when you have to make a lot of decisions you can’t be emotionally invested in all of them.

2. Find what’s important to you and stick to it, don’t listen to other people. I definitely found this out in building the house and it really helped when we planned our 10 year vow renewal. Very few people have an unlimited budget and unlimited interested. In the case of weddings, some people care more about the fashion or the food or the flowers or the band, etc. Don’t follow an artificial budget that doesn’t reflect your own desires and don’t let someone else tell you what you just have to have at your wedding.

3. Understand there will always be something better out there. You’re capturing a moment in time. My perfectionist side had to learn that things were always changing, new options were always coming out, and at the end of the day the most important thing was that a decision be made.

Congratulations!