{"id":16971,"date":"2019-06-04T16:50:33","date_gmt":"2019-06-04T20:50:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.andiemitchell.com\/?p=16971"},"modified":"2019-06-04T16:50:39","modified_gmt":"2019-06-04T20:50:39","slug":"adventures-in-light-sleep-training","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.andiemitchell.com\/adventures-in-light-sleep-training\/","title":{"rendered":"Adventures in (Light) Sleep Training"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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(By Daniel) <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He was a sweet and agreeable boy from the moment he entered the world. He didn\u2019t cry when they gave him an IV an hour after he was born. He was happy to let anyone hold him. He didn\u2019t mind diaper changes. He tolerated any amount of noise or light. Like most newborns he only seemed to care about two things: he wanted to be well fed and he wanted to be held while he slept.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So we held him\u2014and we were happy to do it. There is no better feeling than your newborn snuggling up against you, peacefully snoozing away. After some time, we would set him down and he would usually stay asleep for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. But we were prepared for this. I splurged and bought a Snoo smart sleeper for 800 dollars. We planned to swaddle him, hook him safely into the snoo, and let the magic robot rock him gently as he slept through the night. But James had other plans. He disliked the Snoo. We kept trying to get him used to it and sometimes he would take to it. But mostly he just wanted to be held. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When we set him down in Snoo, he would wake. When we set him down in the crib, he would wake. But when we set him down in the Leachco Podster, gifted to us at our baby shower, he stayed asleep. It was a blessing. Eventually, our reliance on it would pose problems, but it was a lifesaver at the beginning. In the early days we would put it in between us in the bed. I would generally stay up on my laptop in the bed while he and Andie slept because he was still waking frequently to eat. Andie would get up early and takeover before dawn. Since he was almost always supervised and couldn\u2019t roll over, we were ok with letting him sleep in the podster from a safety perspective. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We eventually moved him into the nursery after several months. We kept trying to reintroduce the Snoo, and it worked occasionally, but never as well as the Podster. Our nighttime routine was difficult but manageable. We would bathe him, swaddle him, feed him, read him a story, and then rock him to sleep. Once he was asleep for awhile, I would gently put him down in the Podster which sat inside his crib. I just am not the type of person who can sleep, wake, and go back to sleep easily. So I still stayed up for the night shift and watched him on the monitor. He was waking three times a night to eat, between 7pm and 5am, up until about 4.5 months, when he went down to two night feedings. After his feedings, he would generally go back down pretty easily. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It wasn\u2019t the best situation. Me staying up all night and sleeping until noon was not ideal. We were nervous about him becoming too used to sleeping in the pod. We were still swaddling because he refused to sleep unswaddled. But he could turn over, so I had to watch him the whole time he was sleeping. It was working\u2026until it wasn\u2019t. At seven months old, he started to wake more and more frequently\u2014crying and only going back to sleep if I held him and rocked him. Then he started to try to turn over in the pod, which was worrying, so we decided we needed to transition him out of the swaddle and out of the pod<\/em> and into the crib. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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At first, I tried a bunch of things in an attempt to make the transition less jarring. I bought a crib wedge to give him some elevation, like he was used to. I bought several different types of swaddles and wearable blankets that would allow us to take out one arm at a time. I continued to rock him and sat in his room all night to comfort him if he started to get upset. But none of it was working. He was sleeping worse, waking more, and becoming more and more irritable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We discussed the situation with his pediatrician and she recommended sleep training, specifically Ferberizing. It was the same recommendation that Andie\u2019s OBGYN gave her when they discussed how James was sleeping. We looked into this type of sleep training, where you let your baby cry and try to self-soothe for a set number of minutes and at specific intervals, and after talking it over we just weren\u2019t entirely comfortable doing it. But at some point the situation had become untenable. He wasn\u2019t sleeping. I was sitting in his room and rocking him all night long. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We still weren\u2019t comfortable committing to a cry-it-out method, so I looked into other sleep training methods. I didn\u2019t have a solid plan but on one particularly bad night I decided I had to try something.<\/em> I took the swaddle off of him, fed him another bottle, and rocked him until he was drowsy. I kissed him, said goodnight, then I set him on his back in the crib and left the room. I just wanted to see how he would react and then formulate a plan from there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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He stayed quietly on his back for a few minutes\u2014eyes wide, seeming a bit confused about what was going on. Then he started crying. I told myself I\u2019d wait three minutes to give him a chance to self-soothe. Andie joined me in the hallway outside his door and agreed to my experiment. He kept crying for three minutes and I went in and gave him his pacifier and rubbed his head and then left the room again. He cried again and this time I said I\u2019d give him five minutes. He kept crying but a few times de-escalated and seemed to almost calm himself down before starting up again. I went back in after five minutes and told him I loved him and it was time to sleep and left again. At this point Andie was bawling. I told her I\u2019d give it another five minutes and then I\u2019d rock him to sleep. After 4 more minutes of crying, it just didn\u2019t seem like he was going to be able to do it. Andie and I both realized that sleep training wasn\u2019t really for us. It was unbearable. We moved toward his door, my hand on the doorknob, when suddenly the crying stopped. On the monitor we watched as James rolled over on his stomach and went to sleep. That night he only woke up once to eat, and went right back down to sleep after.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The next night I did the same bed time routine and put him down in the crib and left the room. He cried for about 15 seconds before going to sleep. He never cried for more than 30 seconds to a minute after that point. Now he usually goes right to sleep when I put him down without crying at all. He sleeps from 7 to 3, I feed and change him, then he goes back down until around 6. It\u2019s rare to hear any crying from him at all during the night. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So technically<\/em> we did use a cry-it-out method of sleep training even though when Andie talks about it she always says we did \u201clight\u201d sleep training. But honestly, we just got very lucky that James adapted so quickly. I\u2019m not confident enough to say sleep training is good or bad, right or wrong. Personally, I wasn\u2019t comfortable doing it at all before he was over six months. And I\u2019m not sure I would have been able to stick with it. Andie had already told me on night one that James could just sleep in our bed forever, so it\u2019s safe to say she wouldn\u2019t have wanted to stick with it either. But I do think it\u2019s a viable option for older babies who are having trouble sleeping. It can be upsetting, but healthy sleep is really important for parents and babies. I think it worked for us because he was ready. He wanted to sleep on his stomach and his previous set up wasn\u2019t allowing him to do that so once he figured out that he had the freedom to sleep in his preferred position (knees tucked in with his butt in the air and his face pressed against the mattress) he was able to sleep soundly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Figuring out nighttime sleep was great progress for us. Now if only we could set him down for his naps. During the day, we either hold him and rock him or drive him around in the car while playing \u201cDiamonds on the Soles of Her Shoes\u201d on repeat. I\u2019m sure he\u2019ll let us know when he\u2019s ready. Hopefully it\u2019s before college.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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